BUT, you don’t need to pretend like it’s the last thing on your mind either, just to play cool.
Doing that is a form of deceit and leads to the very awkward unfolding that I mentioned above.
Now all the things she’s kept inside are quickly spilling over.
She’s letting out her frustrations about the state of their “non” relationship and changing the name of her game – she isn’t just in this for the fun – she wants No one’s saying you gotta lay out on all your cards on the first date (in fact, please don’t), just don’t make an effort to deny something that’s important to you – wanting a meaningful relationship with I don’t think you need to make your endgame clear to the person you’re seeing from the get go, nor do I think you should have an endgame besides getting to know someone for the human they are and building a genuine connection if it exists.
About the Author: Tamara Star Tamara Star believes happiness is not a destination, but instead the ability to see the ordinary through eyes of wonder.
Being authentic versus trying to be someone you think you should be is always the safest bet. Taking too much air time on the first few dates explaining to him why you don't need a man in your life.
Here are five reminders of what not to do in the presence of Mr. Sure, we don't need a man to be happy, but if you don't want one, why are you on the date in the first place?
She wants to keep his attention, and not scare him off, so she pretends like a relationship is the last thing she wants.
Meanwhile, they’re spending more time together and her feelings for him are soaring…then BAM. She goes from being easy, breezy, cool – to downright confusing.