Choices finding gods way in dating sex marriage and singleness
In fact, most single people who go to church want to marry. We’ve conducted the largest survey of single Christians ever done. We, as members of the church, are not immune to this cultural mood in a society that enables us to survive as singletons and for many (by no means all) to have sufficient disposable income to have a good time before “settling down”. ) turn around to look for someone to marry, there’s no one there! Many women think the men in their churches are passive and feeble (this is what they say in the surveys! Just remember that men are required to be that in the context of a church service.
Single people start leaving the church from their 20s onwards. According to another piece of research I’ve done (conducted by You Gov), there are twice as many ABC1 (educated middle-class) single women as men going to places of Christian worship for the purposes of worship. They’re not encouraged to stand up and debate with the preacher – a very typical male thing to do in normal life.
Indeed, there was a law in place – the Lex Julia – that every female citizen aged between 20 and 50 (except for Vestal Virgins), and every man between 25 and 60, had to be married – and if widowed, they had two to three years to remarry. The law was only revoked in AD 320 by emperor Constantine, as part of the Roman Empire becoming the Holy Roman Empire.Single people tell us they want to hear sermons and talks about singleness, or at least for the sermons they do hear to be relevant to them.One reason singleness is often overlooked in teaching is that there isn’t a lot directly about singleness in the Bible.Because life was very different in Jesus’ time – most people married in their late teens and lived and worked as part of a self-supporting extended family – there’s little in the way of ready resources in the Bible for today’s single Christians to draw on.Therefore we have to determine how to live as single people from the overall story.